Go wedding dress shopping with the bride (if that’s what she wants).Use this introduction to see what calendar dates may work best for the group to hold an event. If bridesmaids are located in different cities, a welcome email or group web chat can be a fun first correspondence. Once you’ve figured out a general idea of what the bride wants, you should reach out to the rest of the “I-do crew” to set up introductions and see who may be able to help with party planning. Initiate virtual/in-person introductions with all the bridesmaids.Many vendors become booked six months or more out in advance, so the earlier you can figure out the bride’s wishes, the better. Does she prefer more intimate gatherings in a casual location with close friends or a larger event at commercial locations? This will give you an idea of how far in advance you’ll need to plan. Understand what type of celebrations she has envisioned. If she only needs help with activities, start asking her questions to get a clearer idea of what she’s envisioning. This includes an engagement party, the bridal shower, and the bachelorette party. Collaborate with the bride on her vision for pre-wedding festivities.Īfter your bestie gets engaged, meet with her within 1-2 months to determine if she wants traditional parties to take place.
You may be thinking, “6-12 months out?! Why do I need to plan so far in advance if it’s not even my wedding?” Depending on how involved the bride would like you to be, maid of honor responsibilities should be spread out over time, rather than isolated to wedding-day tasks. MAID OF HONOR DUTIES BEFORE THE WEDDING 6-12 MONTHS OUT: A bride, of course, may choose to have both. *Note: Maids and matrons of honor have the same responsibilities-the only difference is a matron of honor is married, while a maid of honor is not. Don’t be afraid to enlist help from the rest of your bridesmaids because you can’t shoulder every burden! Most importantly, have fun and enjoy your place of honor. As a part event planner, bridesmaids peacekeeper, and financial manager, the maid of honor needs to be able to wear multiple hats and lend a helping hand when called upon. Arguably the most important maid of honor duty is to support the bride through the stressful and joyful parts of wedding planning.
Now that you have the honor of holding this title, what exactly are the maid of honor duties? Traditionally, a maid of honor will lead the charge for planning bridal festivities (think the bridal shower and the bachelorette party). Congratulations on being chosen to be a maid (or matron) of honor!* Though there are some duties that come with the position, what it truly means is that the bride considers you to be her best friend and confidante, someone she wants by her side on her big day.